There are some women who are blessed to have been born with patience. To those of you that have no problem in the area of patience… move along. This post just isn’t for you. For the rest of us, including myself, patience doesn’t come naturally. There are two options that you can follow if patience just isn’t your thing
Option #1: You give into your frustrations and you end up blowing up like Mt. St. Helens or…
Option #2: You learn to work through life’s challenges, i.e. children and try to learn to be patient.
One of the reasons that I hear most from moms about not being able to homeschool is that they feel they are not patient enough. Patience is definitely a character trait that is much needed when homeschooling, but it is not a requirement. If you ask my children if I am a patient person they would probably respond with a big fat NO! But if you ask them if I am a more patient person than say… 5 years ago, they would respond with a resounding YES!!!
I have learned through a definite process of trial and error how to be a more patient person. I’m going to share with you some things that work for me and feel free to try them, but know that these work for ME and they might not be for you. And that’s OK! Find what works for YOU! This will probably take time, but stick with it. You’ll find your sword of patience that will help you fight any battle of annoyance that life can throw at you.
#1: Working out
I work out EVERY SINGLE DAY!!! This is CRUCIAL to how much patience I have for the day. If everything else falls apart that day, I know that I’ve worked out. It’s amazing what those endorphins can do for you!
#2: Find a hobby outside of your children
Hopefully this doesn’t come across as sounding selfish, but I really do feel it’s important for you to continue pursuing your passions and dreams. And believe it or not, you CAN do stuff other than just homeschool stuff during the day, but that’s for another post. But when I continue to learn and grow in my talents I’ve found I am much more patient and what a great example for kids to see their moms and/or dads continuing to learn. My hobby happens to be teaching fitness classes so I can kill two birds with one stone, working out and pursing a hobby!
#3: Find a support group
I have found that it is VITAL for me to go and be with friends even if it’s just to talk for an hour or two. It does wonders for my spirits! A few years ago I didn’t have a lot of people I could call on to get together with and it was really hard. And guess what? That is when my patience fuse was at it’s shortest.
Currently, I have homeschool friends and non-homeschool friends and all of them are amazing and supportive of what I do. I can call or text them and they are willing to listen to me vent and not judge me and that’s what good friends are for. (cue music for That’s What Friends Are For by Dionne Warwick)
#4: DOVE DARK CHOCOLATE
Now I’m not saying you should eat your emotions, but there are times when the only thing that will take away an adult temper tantrum is a little chocolate. My kids call it “Moms medicine.”
Now I’m sorry if milk chocolate is your thing but dark chocolate, in my opinion, is the only way to go. And I can’t chew it. In order for it to be it’s most potent I have to sit down and suck on it and savor every last bit of it. The world will slip away for a moment and I can regain myself and then step back into homeschooling mommyhood.
I will give a word of caution with this method of patience building. In the beginning, when you are first learning to be more patient, you might find yourself going through probably more chocolate than you should. Then #1’s way to be more patient will become ever more important so it doesn’t add extra inches to your waste line. There are times, even now, when my husband will come home, see a plethora of dove wrappers and then say, “Bad day?” It doesn’t happen often, but there for sure are still “those days.”
So these are just some of the ways I deal with building up my patience level. I still have days that are rough, but I’m still learning. Isn’t that what this life is all about though, learning and growing?
Through this journey of homeschooling I am coming to learn to be patient. Not just through homeschool, but also with the things that life has handed me. Hopefully I don’t offend anyone by saying this, but if I were to send my kids away to school all day… How would I learn? My children and me wouldn’t have all these opportunities to grow and learn together. I never in my wildest dreams would have imagined that this experience of homeschooling would be such time of development for myself. I only was thinking of how this would benefit my children, which it has. I am forever grateful for this decision we made years ago to homeschool and how much of a blessing it has been for us to become a stronger family and to learn together.