Why in the Heck Do I Need a Life Coach?

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First off, maybe we should start off with what in the heck IS a life coach?

Well, if you look up on the good old Google you would find that the definition of a life coach is a person who counsels and encourages clients on matters having to do with personal challenges or career.

O.K. So that’s the super dry version. So let me put it this way. Have you ever felt like you weren’t reaching up to the highest version of yourself?

A Personal Story

When I say that out loud, I picture someone climbing the rope in a school gym class.

Do you remember that?

Do they still even do that anymore?

I remember never being able to get to the top. Actually, I’m not even sure my feet left the ground aside from the initial jump off the ground. I can so clearly picture it in my mind.

Telling myself, “you’ve got this!”

I would rub my hands on the sides of my ugly school gym uniform shorts, jump as high as I could off the ground and grab ahold of the rope. It was as if that first jump was going to catapult me to my desired destination to the top when in reality I only made it a couple of feet off the ground. And then there I would dangle. My feet swinging wildly below, struggling to just get my hands to go one on top of the other to pull myself upwards.

And what was the gym teacher doing?

Just standing there.

Come to think of it, I don’t think the teacher was even paying attention. I was just left there to figure it out on my own.

And I didn’t.

I fell.

Not far mind you since I really never made it much farther than my initial jump to get onto the rope. And that was that. So now in adulthood, I have this very real limiting belief that I just can’t climb a rope.

When it comes to climbing a rope, I am in a very real place of

“STUCKNESS.”

Yes!

“Stuckness” is a word, because I just said it. But you know what I mean, right?!

As hard as you try to push past something, or in my case of the rope climb, up something, you just seem to stay in the same place…struggling to move forward. Just as with the rope climb, it can be exhausting and frustrating, both physically and mentally.

Now if my gym teacher had been there to teach me and had given me multiple class opportunities with various steps on how to climb a rope, I’m pretty certain there would have been a different outcome. And I’m pretty for certain that if I went to a gym today that did rope climbing, is there even such a place, that with the proper coaching and training I would reach the top of that rope.

But you guys, this story of the rope climb isn’t really much different than how we approach our lives and what we want to accomplish in them.

Where are your places of stuckness?

We all have things that, as hard as you try to push past them, we get stuck with our legs dangling…holding on for dear life just trying to get our hands to move up the rope of life. Whether these struggles have to do with your health, or maybe you’re struggling with financial habits, or you have a relationship that is feeling stagnant and you want to take it to power couple status, or you need a kick in the pants with your career, or spiritually you feel out of whack…whatever it might be, that’s where a life coach can be a game-changer.

Did you know that there was a study done on the effectiveness of life coaching?

The results they found were AMAZING! 99% of people that were interviewed saw their experience working with a life coach as rewarding, while 96% stated that they would do it again. The typical issues that were worked on were time management, anxiety, career guidance, relationship/family issues, wellness issues, financial guidance, and goal setting. As for what the clients felt like they gained from their life coaching sessions, those interviewed stated that they had a higher level of self-awareness, smarter goal setting, a more balanced life, lower stress levels, more self-confidence, an improvement in their quality of life, enhanced communication skills, health improvement, better family relationships, increased energy, and had more fun!

You guys!

There is hope!

If you have been struggling with any of these or maybe there is something else that you feel like you’ve been pushing a boulder up a hill, that’s what a life coach can help you work through.

So why the heck do you need a life coach?

If you’ve ever felt lost or anxiety-ridden, have doubted yourself, have struggled to create a clear plan, have needed to improve your health, struggle with following through, don’t seem to have enough time or tend to procrastinate, find that you’re susceptible to stress, or feel like your self-confidence could use a boost, then that’s why you need a life coach! As a life coach, I am here to help you make small shifts that bring HUGE results and lasting change.

But let me get real with you here for a minute. The only way that a life coach is going to help is if you are really ready to make a change. Ultimately, you are the one that is going to make it happen. As a life coach, I can provide you with tools to make a change, be there to cheer you on, give you a kick in the pants when you’re slacking off, but ultimately you have to want it. Want it enough to put in the work for it.

Going back to my rope- climbing story,

I’m not going to ever figure out how to climb a rope or get to the top if I don’t work at it every day and implement the techniques that my rope climbing coach gives me…again, still not sure if there is such a thing as a rope climbing coach J.

Anyhow, you get what I’m saying though. The same goes for your sessions with a life coach, whether you choose me as a life coach or someone else, you have to be willing to do the work. I’m not here to listen to excuses. Okay, I may listen to them, but I won’t be there to accept them for you. Now if no one has told you this before it may sound a little harsh, but I’m about to get a little harsher.

Steve Maraboli said quote, “Your complaints, your drama, your victim mentality, your whining, your blaming, and all of your excuses have NEVER gotten you even a single step closer to your goals or dreams. Let go of your nonsense. Let go of the delusion that you DESERVE better and go EARN it! Today is a new day!”

Everyone say with me now,

#truth!

Ok.

I get that you might not agree with me, but I would like you to think of a successful person that attained their level of success using excuses to get there. Does that make sense?

Excuses

Phrases like,

“I don’t have enough time.”

“I don’t know if I’ll succeed.”

“I didn’t have the right teachers.”

“I’m not motivated enough.”

“I’m not educated enough”

“I wasn’t born in the right area”

“I will start tomorrow”

“I’m not ready.”

“I’m too old”

“My family and friends don’t think I’m capable”

“I’m not smart enough”

“I come from a poor background”

“I’m not talented enough”

or my favorite

“Oh, I can’t do that.”

To which I respond in the kindest way possible,

“I can’t never did anything.”

Now think of some people that have achieved something great.

I can guarantee that they had every reason to come up with an excuse, but I can also guarantee you that they wouldn’t have achieved their greatness if they stuck with their excuses.

Albert Einstein didn’t speak until he was 4 years old and many of his teachers thought that he was lazy.

Jim Carrey used to be homeless. When he was 15 he had to drop out of school to support his family and eventually they had to start living in a van.

Jay-Z came from a rough Brooklyn neighborhood and had big dreams to make it big as a rapper. However, the rest of the world didn’t agree at first. Not one record label would sign him.

Benjamin Franklin’s parents could only afford to keep him in school until his 10th birthday.

Bethany Hamilton had her arm bitten off by a shark while surfing at the age of 13.

Oprah Winfrey was repeatedly molested by her cousin, uncle, and a family friend. She eventually ran away from home and at the age of 14 gave birth to a baby boy who died shortly after.

Kris Carr went in for a regular check-up at her doctor’s office where they discovered a rare and incurable Stage 4 cancer in her liver and lungs.

This is such a small list of people that have had every single reason to have an excuse to not keep pulling up the rope of life.

And sure you could say, well that was Albert Einstein, but I’m no Albert. Or that was Oprah Winfrey! I’m no Oprah. And you’d be right. You aren’t Albert Einstein and you’re not Oprah Winfrey.

But you are you!

And you were put on this earth to BECOME something AMAZING. Don’t let any excuses keep you from getting in your way of that amazingness.

George Washington Carver, “99% of failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.”

O.K. So that was a kind of long tangent on excuses, but I think it’s super important to understand that when you want anything in this life and when you go to work with a life coach to make that happen, that excuses won’t do you any favors.

How can a life coach help?

Again, as a life coach, I can give you the resources and support you need to make lasting change in your life and I can even help you make mental shifts to help make those changes stick, but you have to be ready to make the move away from excuses and be ready to get to work.

But there are even more people out in the world that achieve greatness that we don’t see and there is a good chance that you are one of them and maybe you just need a little help remembering that. But no amount of excuses will get you to your desired outcome.

Tudie Rose a faith-based blogger said “Excellence comes from the practice of developing good habits. It comes from the doing; not the thinking.”

So stop thinking and start doing!

So that’s what a life coach is and why you might need one. Someone to show you the keys to achieving your goals and dreams and how to use those keys. Someone that will be your accountability partner as well as your cheerleader. And someone who will let you know when you are letting excuses get in the way of BECOMING more.

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